Obsessions As A Coping Tool?

Throughout my life I’ve had various obsessions. Things I latched onto and that became the centre of my world for a while. It would be all I could/would want to think or talk about.

As a kid it would be a movie or an animated character, and the family dog Cindy. As a teen, it was a celebrity (won’t say who, it’s embarrassing). I’ve had an obsession with Jennifer Lawrence (which drives my friends crazy) for the past couple years, “replacing” my previous one. I’m the Wikipedia of knowledge when it comes to her. It’s actually quite sad. 😉

My current obsession revolves around dogs. It never really went away. Psychology (and Neuroscience) is also an obsession, but the world of dogs is now front and centre again.

Unlike the Jennifer Lawrence one, the Psychology is something that fascinates my friends and they don’t mind me talking about it endlessly. They’ll even ask me questions, which puts me on cloud nine.

I want to study Psychology. I want my own dog. As long as I can remember I’ve wanted these things. So it’s not just new stuff that comes up and become obsessions. I just go through these stages where I’m so psyched thinking about doing and getting those things that once again it’s all I can think about, and I want it now.

But when I sat down and thought about it, I realized I’m not going to get any of those things in the near future unless something changes in my life. When I thought about that, I felt defeated and hopeless again. But yet my mind won’t stop or let it go. It’s like a compulsion. I have to read more, watch more, learn more, talk about it as often as I can to anyone who will listen, etc.

Why do I do this to myself? I’ve asked this question quite a lot, but I don’t have any concrete answers, other than that maybe it’s a coping tool? Because my mind is so filled up with these things that I don’t have time to deal with all the other shit. It makes me feel alive. It fills me with excitement. So I don’t see it as a bad thing. Sure, it can be annoying sometimes (and not just for others). But for the most part, it’s so worth it.


16 thoughts on “Obsessions As A Coping Tool?

  1. This is good insight. I agree with the others that it seems like you could be using your obsessions, which I’m going to reframe into the word ‘passions’, as a distraction strategy. Of course if its between something stressful and something exciting, you lean towards the thing that excites you. It’s okay to use those things as an escape from the world. That can keep you safe, as long as it doesn’t consume you.

    By the way, all that learning your doing about psychology means you are one step closer to having it in your life. You’re internalizing everything you learn to use in daily life. As far as the dog, maybe you can use that as motivation to make those changes you mentioned? Life if you accomplish x, y, z, that’s when you’ll be able to get yourself a dog.

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    1. I like the phrase “passions”! Some good insights there, thanks. 🙂 Well, I’ll be able to get a doggie as soon as I’m more financially stable. I’m doing all I can to make that a reality. It’s just frustrating when things keep throwing me up against the wall… Such as my car breaking down and having that huge expense, etc. But I won’t give up. 🙂

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  2. I’ve been through similar things for me its been shows that I would binge watch and think of fanfiction for. Video games, I would draw fan art and look at others on Instagram. Music where I would listen to a song on repeat until I got bored of it and books. For me they were distractions from the dark thoughts in my mind. At the moment I’m into spiritual stuff like card readings and crystals I’ve had phases where I would be really into it especially ghosts and stuff but then stop completely for a while so I don’t know how long it will last for this time but it has been helping me. So as long as you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else then its okay as my mum always says “whatever gets you through the day” ❤

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    1. I’m the same with music. I never listen to the radio, because I have my set of favourite songs which I’m always listening to. Once in a while when I’m watching a series I enjoy, I’ll hear a song that grabs me and that gets added to my collection, lol. I like what your mom says… “Whatever gets you through the day.” 🙂 ❤

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  3. I can really relate to this. I never thought about my obsessions (or passions as they were otherwise called) as a coping mechanism though. I really like that perspective. It makes total sense. When things get rough, it is easier to run to knowledge. It feels good to disappear into books and articles and blogs. Knowing things helps.

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    1. It’s always nice to know we’re not the only people that experience things the way we do. I agree, it feels good to disappear into the world of knowledge. ❤


  4. Too many of my obsessions have been men. I didn’t realize how obsessive I really was until after I gave up dating. Now my obsessions rear up in unexpected ways sometimes. But at least I’m not alone in this.

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  5. Life is full of surprises. Unexpected doors to opportunity may yet open. As the old Buddhist saying goes, “When the student is ready, the master will appear.”

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