Tag: Fear Of Abandonment
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The Healing Bond
In my post ‘The Therapeutic Relationship‘, I wrote about my connection with my therapist, and the fear that often accompanies it. On Monday morning, in preparation for our session later that afternoon, I asked her to open up that post for our session (she has access to my blog). I wasn’t sure whether she had…
Rayne
Attachment, Awareness, Bond, Borderline Personality Disorder, Boundaries, BPD, Communication, Connection, Fear Of Abandonment, Healing, Making Progress, Mental Health, Mental Illness, Object Constancy, Obsessive Attachments, Psychologist, Reflection, Relationships, The Therapeutic Relationship, Therapist, Trust, Vulnerability -
Being My Own Friend
During my therapy session yesterday, I was highly annoyed with myself. I told my therapist that I feel I should be better by now. That I should just get over everything and move on. She told me that I’m very harsh on myself, and set very high expectations. That’s very true. I’m my own worst…
Rayne
Attachment, Behaviour, Black & White Thinking, Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD, Change, Communication, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Disconnection, Encouragement, Fear Of Abandonment, Healing, Insecurity, Inspiration, Kindness, Life, Mental Health, Mental Illness, Object Constancy, Obsessive Attachments, Psychologist, Psychology, Reflection, Relationships, Self Care, Skills, Splitting, Structure, The Therapeutic Relationship, Therapist, Transference -
Insecurity, Hot On The Heels Of Vulnerability
Therapy is hard sometimes. And yesterdays session was one of those. I’m always open during my sessions, and trust my therapist with things I can’t ever speak to anyone else about. She holds my secrets. But this one was particularly difficult for me. For some reason it felt like I was more exposed than ever…
Rayne
Anger, Anxiety, Attachment, Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD, Comfort, Connection, Devaluation, Disconnection, Embarrassment, Fear Of Abandonment, Fragile, Hurt, Idealization, Insecurity, Mental Health, Mental Illness, Object Constancy, Obsessive Attachments, Panic, Panic Attack, Psychologist, Relationships, Sensitivity, Shame, Stress, The Past, The Therapeutic Relationship, Therapist, Vulnerability, Walls -
BPD & Attachment
Those of us with BPD have unstable patterns in relationships. Until I started therapy, this fact didn’t even appear on my radar. I was living it, but not consciously aware of these patterns. It was only when I started therapy that it was brought to my awareness. I see it play out in my relationship…
Rayne
Abandonment, Anger, Anxiety, Attachment, Awareness, Black & White Thinking, Borderline Personality Disorder, Boundaries, BPD, Connection, Devaluation, Emptiness, Fear Of Abandonment, Feeling Lost, Frustration, Hurt, Idealization, Letter, Mental Health, Music, Object Constancy, Obsessive Attachments, Psychologist, Rejection, Relationships, Splitting, The Therapeutic Relationship, Therapist, Therapy -
The Dream And A Missing Psychologist
I find dreams fascinating. Even nightmares. Growing up, I had a few recurrent dreams. They have stuck with me through the years, and every once in a while (very rarely at least) I have one of them again. I’ll write about each one sometime. Now, I have a new dream. I’ve had it only once…
Journey Toward Healing 